Taking the Pith
Long ago, but not very far away, children could write using a pen on paper. Moreover they could write at length. They didn’t use post-its. Consequently the first English lesson of September was to write a composition. The two word title was on the blackboard: My Holiday. The teacher would set us to write about our summer holidays. The poor or indolent among us would put up their hands and say, “But we didn’t have a holiday, we didn’t go away anywhere.”
The teacher (who would not be denied his or her forty minutes of grace before the melee of a new term) sighed gently and said, “Well just write about what you did, how you spent your time. Begin!”
The peremptory tone confirmed discussion was over. Silence reigned over the exercise books and desks. At the end, books would be collected in, class dismissed, and the teacher would set the next class the same task while marking the books of the previous lot.
Only when I became a teacher and set my new class this classic new term task did I understand the depths of banality such an exercise could produce.
My Holiday by Annette Davies
My Mum woke us up at six o’clock – in the morning! She and Dad were dressed and making breakfast. We had corn flakes and a cup of tea and then helped wash-up while Mum made the sandwiches and a flask of tea. Dad started putting the cases in the car and the tent. It was a bit of a squash. Then we loaded pillows and sheets and blankets and toys and games until you couldn’t see out of the windows. Janet and I were stuffed on the back seat under all the pillows. We were really squashed and then she started kicking me so I hit her with a pillow and Dad dragged Janet out of one side and smacked her and Mum dragged me out of my side and smacked me so we both started crying. The neighbours were starting to go to work so Mum and Dad got embarrassed and banged us back in the car and locked the door.
Wales was really boring. It rained all the time so we just sat in the tent playing cards while Dad and Mum went to Club bar. Then we came home.
The End.
Suffice it to say I never set such a composition again. I am now 73 and retired from teaching for fifteen years. But now and again the ghosts of Annette and Janet rear up again when I am listening to seemingly sapient, articulate and educated women of my age begin to tell me something of import. Nothing trivial or frivolous, no trifles, rather weighty subjects such as receiving dramatic news that a family member had been hospitalised, a dramatic emergency in the night calling kith and kin across the land to the hospital where a close relative may lie dying.
I listen sympathetically with bated breath to hear the meat of the matter, the pith of urgency if you like. This is what I often hear:
Well, I’d been out shopping and there were huge queues so it took me ages and then I was late for my hair appointment. Justine was telling me about the flat she and her boyfriend were moving into soon in Ludlow and how her Nails technician Samantha had got another job in Birmingham no less and was leaving in a fortnight so she was on the look-out for a new girl to do the nails and did I know anyone. Well, with one thing and another we ran out of time so I couldn’t get my nails done after all . . .
I say, “Yes, but who’s in hospital? What’s the emergency? Which hospital? Is it Jackie?
Rather waspishly: Let me explain, will you! I’m trying to tell you but you keep interrupting! Where was I? You’ve made me lose my thread now . . . Oh, yes, well, Justine said she’d book me in for a manicure and toe-nails as soon as she found a new Nails technician.
I say with some asperity: Yes, so who’s in hospital? What’s wrong?
I’m coming to that! Don’t be so impatient, let me tell my own story in my own way. So, I get home and unload the shopping and Bill was coming round for supper when the phone rang just as I was about to phone him. It was Bill!
Shussh, darling, let me finish. So he tells me that Sally has been rushed to hospital and he’ll be round in 20 minutes to pick me up and to pack an overnight bag. We’re going straight down to London to meet my brother Tommy and his son Owen and Vic, Sally’s husband. So I was in a flap putting the shopping away and throwing things into a holdall. Of course I forgot my charger, my makeup bag and my deep cleanser but on the dot he rang the doorbell, bungled me into his car and we sped off to London . . .
At this point I should point out that Sally, aged 62, is her younger and only sister, Tommy in his fifties her only brother. I foolishly interjected “Yes but what’s wrong with Sally? Is it the cancer again? Which hospital is she in?”
Stop it, Daniel, I’m telling you, can’t you see? Now, where was I . . .
So the spirit of Annette and millions of other hapless children are alive today in ladies of all ages across the country. The mystery of why the pith of the matter seems invariably to elude the fairer sex is surely deserving of scientific investigation. To ensure utter impartiality I suggest a team of female researchers at Oxford and Cambridge from a range of relevant disciplines put their heads together and finally account for one of the strangest variances between men and women.
I have found in my experience that men tend to be all pith and women primarily embroidery. What do others think?
DK from a secret hiding place on the Long Mynd 7 February, 2024